What we long for is meant for us and no one can save us or make us happy - we have to learn to do that for ourselves. What we want is waiting for us and we have to do the work to access it. Life should be peaceful and joyful and we get tests/lessons in life based on what we need to learn and how we need to grow. These tests and lessons show up in our dating life as well. Everything is always working out for us, our thoughts create our reality, what we focus on grows, and the quality of our life depends on our thoughts and actions.